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| March 21, 2009 Good news ... The little boy we hope to adopt is almost certainly ours. Although he cannot be officially 'held' for us, he is available for adoption and we are first in line - yeah! We are trying to get our dossier submitted before Spring Break in early April. This is also great news, because we have heard of people traveling just a few weeks after the dossier is submitted. Which means we hope to spend Spring in Eastern Europe. There is one big thing remaining, we need more medical information on him. He is a special needs little boy, which is what we want, but we need to fully understand the degree of his disability. We have to remain objective to our own limitations, and not infatuated with the adoption process. This is not always easy. We have complete faith in our agency coordinator, and hope she can give us the reassurance we need. We will try not to jump to far ahead, but we wonder where he will sleep, what his name will be, how Andrew & Adam will react, what to do with the boys while we are gone (for several weeks), and about a zillion other things. For today, we are just going to enjoy the idea of another little boy in the family. March 27, 2009 As the process goes on my enthusiasm for each step dwindles - my enthusiasm for our third son does not. I have finally, once again, accepted that international adoption is completely unpredictable, Getting all excited about each step only to be let down by another detour was too tiring. So I remain in love with #3, and loyal to the paperwork process, and hopeful that things will go quickly, but realistic that 'it could happen tomorrow' is just as likely as 'it could happen in November'. However, we have taken another big step. All of our official dossier paperwork is en route to our adoption agency. This is great progress - all the paperwork will be translated and then officially submitted to the adoption officials. After our paperwork is reviewed to make sure we didn't misplace any commas, we might get a date to travel. It would be great to know, when the dossier might be submitted, but we have no idea. We don't know when the paperwork will be translated, or when it will be submitted, or when it will be reviewed by the powers that be, or when we might hear if we are approved, or when we might travel. We are actually okay with this, and at peace. We believe this adoption will happen it is just a matter of when, and for that we are really excited! The process just gives us more time to come up with a name at which we are terrible! April 11, 2009 Still no news. Our dossier has not been submitted, and we don't know when it will be submitted. We remain sort of okay with this, but it is hard. Our latest hope was to travel in May or June - who knows if that will materialize? The great news is that we saw a 2nd picture of little "E". We are still very in love with the picture. We continue to try and learn more about his disabilities, but that has not amounted to much information. We also continue to think of a name for the little guy. We like the idea of his name starting with an "A", but we are not having much success. The boys have suggested Anakin Skywalker, Tooeey, and Johnny Test - they are doing better than Meric and I. We hope for some divine inspiration when we finally meet the little guy. Until then we wait, not very patiently, to learn more. July 5, 2009 About 2 months ago we learned that the adoption we had hoped for was not going to happen. Unfortunately, the information we received on 'E' was not correct, and we were no longer in a position to adopt him. In some ways, this was validating as we had questions about his health from the beginning, and our agency was never able to reassure us that everything was okay. We learned from a 3rd party that everything was not okay with little 'E' and we had to tell our agency this news. Fortunately, our agency handled the situation as best they could. It was nice to finally know the truth, and it was very sad. We were most sad for 'E'. He will most likely not be adopted due to the severity of his issues, and this is heart breaking. It is still hard to think about, and we so wish the situation was different. We will move on from this loss, but never forget little 'E' As for our plans, who knows what the future holds. We love the idea of another child, as we believe children are a blessing (a challenging blessing at times). If it happens great, and if it does not, great. We feel lucky to have 2 wonderful boys who we cherish and adore. We thank God for the gift of them and the gift of adoption. If we are lucky enough to adopt again, it would be amazing. See next page |